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Patrick J. Whalen

March 18, 1959 ~ August 22, 2021 (age 62)


Patrick J. Whalen, 62, of Middletown, passed away peacefully on August 22, 2021 at home. He was born in Staten Island, New York to Thomas C. and Ethel (Murray) Whalen.

Patrick graduated from Moore Catholic High School in 1977 where he was a varsity baseball, basketball, and track athlete. He went on to attend SUNY Oneonta, graduating with a degree in chemistry. He joined the Fire Department of New York in 1981, and spent 20 years in service, retiring as a Lieutenant. He was a first responder to the World Trade Center on September 11, 2001 with Engine 163 Ladder 83. After retiring from the FDNY, Patrick began working in construction management, ending his career with Gilbane Building Company. Patrick’s greatest pride was being a father to his three children with whom he loved vacationing in the Outer Banks, coaching basketball, and summer barbecues in the backyard. He was a devout Catholic and parishioner of St. Catharine’s in Holmdel, New Jersey. Patrick was married to his college sweetheart Kathleen for 37 years.

Patrick is predeceased by his brothers, John and Daniel. He is survived by his beloved wife Kathleen (Dunne) Whalen, his loving children Shannon, Patrick and John; and his brothers, Thomas, William, Michael and James Whalen.

A visitation will be held at the John E. Day Funeral Home, 85 Riverside Avenue, Red Bank, NJ 07701 on Wednesday August 25, 2021 from 3 – 8 pm. A Mass of Christian Burial will be held at St. Catharine’s Roman Catholic Church in Holmdel, New Jersey on Thursday August 26, 2021 at 11:30 a.m. Interment will follow at Mt. Olivet Cemetery in Middletown.

In lieu of flowers, memorial donations may be sent in Patrick’s memory to the Ray Pfeifer Foundation or Tunnel to Towers Foundation or

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August 25, 2021

3:00 PM to 8:00 PM
John E. Day Funeral Home
85 Riverside Avenue
Red Bank, New Jersey 07701

Mass of Christian Burial
August 26, 2021

11:30 AM
St. Catharine's RC Church of Holmdel
108 Middletown Road
Holmdel, NJ 07733


Mt. Olivet Cemetery
100 Chapel Hill Road
Middletown, NJ 07701

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