Nancy Catherine (Erbal) Voccola died comfortably at home after a short illness on November 17th, 2022 with her family by her side.
Nancy was born in Hartford CT in 1946 and in the late 1960’s met her husband Harry while working at a computer software company in Silver Spring, Maryland. They married in 1970 and moved to New Jersey shortly after.
Nancy loved and was so very proud of her family, which she raised in Middletown NJ. Marriage and family were the joys of her life. Nancy loved spending time at the beach both in Seaside Park, New Jersey and Miami Beach, Florida with her husband Harry, her three children, six grandchildren, and their “extended” family of dozens of close friends who all came to see Nancy as a second mother.
Whether it was driving her children to every possible activity all around the state, with their friends in car rocking out to the “golden oldies” of the 50s and 60s (single handedly ensuring that an entire generation of Middletown NJ kids could sing along with any Chuck Berry, Doobie Brothers, or Everly Brothers song) , or being the person that the neighborhood kids went to when they needed an adult’s perspective or help, Nancy was always there to ensure that everyone was taken care of and happy.
Nancy was lover of all people, getting to know them. Nancy was well known as someone who loved to engage in long and energetic conversations, taking the time to lean all about people’s lives, interests, and families. Whether they were strangers, or close family, Nancy loved to talk, as well as listen, learn and advise. Nancy took a real interest in people, their interests, and doing all she could to make their lives just a little better.
Being the mother of three boys, Nancy learned to LOVE sports, particularly the sports her children, and later grandchildren played. She was always looking for ways to help, being the team mother, team cook, and without question, their biggest cheerleader. Nancy became an encyclopedia of sports facts and history for every sport each of her three children played, as well as for all the professional teams the family followed. Her knowledge of sports resulted in her being named the official judge in all family sports debates
Nancy worked at Oak Hill Academy in Middletown, NJ from 1994-2002 and volunteered for several charitable organizations. Nancy’s continuing effort to help and comfort others, in particular young single mothers, projected her virtue and generosity.
Nancy was predeceased by her two brothers, Frederick Collins Erbal and Richard Collins Erbal.
Nancy is survived by her husband Harry and their three children Mark, Fred and John along with her six grandchildren Grace Elizabeth, Rose Angela, William Kane, Kathryn Mary, Delaney Mairead and Morgan Naelen and her favorite family dogs, Phoenix, Cooper, Britany and Summer.
Nancy is also survived by her sister-in-law Janet (Voccola) Sturk and her husband Rudy along with their children Rudy Sturk and his wife Susie and Chris Sturk as well as her sister-in-law Susan (Voccola) Richardson and her husband Harry and their children Brian Richardson and Karen (Richardson) Iassogna.
There will be two visitation periods on Monday, November 21st at the John E. Day Funeral Home located at 85 Riverside Ave., Red Bank NJ. The first visitation will be from 2pm-4pm and the second viewing will e from 6pm-8pm.
A funeral mass will be held on Tuesday, November 22nd at 10am at The Church of the Nativity, 180 Ridge Road in Fair Have, with burial services to follow at Mount Olivet Cemetery, 100 Chapel Hill Road in Red Bank.
Our family would like to send a special thank you to all of the staff at Riverview Hospital, the Hackensack Meridian hospice team, and especially all of the excellent nurses from Bayada who assisted with the care of Nancy through her final days and did a tremendous job of making her and her family as comfortable as possible.
Please visit Nancy’s memorial website at www.johnedayfuneralhome.com